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Saturday, April 30, 2011

The Grass is Always Greener...

Yup...don't we all think the grass is always greener on the other side??  Wouldn't we all like to trade places with our spouses or friends or other family members b/c their lives/jobs/relationships/kids/houses/etc seem soooo much better??  I know that I don't want to trade places (ok, there are some days where I wish I could get a job making the same salary as my husband and go to work while he stayed home), but my husband seems to think that my 'job' is much better than his.  I mean, taking care of the kids is not work, right??  Why is it that we think the other one has it better??  Are we all blind to see what we have right in front of us??

My husband has this really bad habit of getting mad at me for not getting things done in a timely manner.  I think that as long as it gets done before it needs to get done it shouldn't matter how long it takes to get there.  Yes, sometimes I am bringing applications somewhere on the day they are due instead of mailing them out weeks or months ahead of time.  And, yes, sometimes there are things that just get swept under the table until I am forced to do them.  But, I always get it done...just on the ol' My Timeline.  I mean, I know he's got his own timeline for certain things and it's definitely different from mine.  I think time just gets away from us now that we have 4 kids and a house and a yard and lots of bills to pay and kids to feed, etc.  So, I guess I should get used to the fact that the bathroom will have a garbage bag covering the wall (it's been like that for almost 7 years) and that the box in the upstairs hallway (along with the door we bought) will still be there tomorrow (it's been 5 or 6 years for those).  Just as long as he can get used to the fact that I will always wait until the last minute to get my things done!!  Right??  And, we've been married for almost 10 years now!!  Hey, I'm a slow learner!!

So, the two of us, I think, really need to take a look at what we've got, appreciate it more, and move on.  We both need to appreciate what the other does and enjoy what we have together.  I think we've lost something and we really need to stop and go back.  Life definitely gets in the way.  Here's to looking at things positively instead of negatively.  And here's to enjoying our 'jobs' as opposed to wishing we had the other one's job.  And, here's to trying to communicate with each other and making fun at each other, and laughing at ourselves.  Life is too short!!  And, nobody's perfect (although my husband may disagree with that...right honey??  I'm perfect, right??)

And so, that's my food for thought tonight!!  If I should lose perspective and get jealous of your greener grass, than I will slap myself silly until I see that what I have in front of me is GREAT!!!

Here's hoping for some sleep tonight...though I don't want to jinx anything b/c last time I wrote about her sleeping, she woke up 3 minutes

BTW- started working out this past week to try and get in shape.  In doing so, I was weighed and shown how to use the foreign equipment...yeah!!  And so, here it is hideous weight is 162 and my goal is to lose at least 20, now that you all know that (you know, the 3 followers that I have) you can laugh right along with me as I shed my baby pounds and get my lungs back into shape!!  ha ha ha  OK- you can laugh at me when I tell you all about those classes I will try to take and those machines I will try to least some of you will get a laugh for the day:)


  1. lol....hope she sleeps and you can get some! You coming on Thursday to Sammie's party?

  2. You have the most important job. Who else can be nurse,cook, clothes washer, mop floors, dust, stay up all night with a sick kid, do homework, try to give kids chores and rewards, try to figure out what you can do with 4 kids in the snow, rain, summer, winter, breaks,ahhhhhh... all those precious moments of not getting a weekly paycheck but getting all the rewards of motherhood. Would some times give up my paying job and go back to motherhood...