And so, I will say that I really really really don't like my husband sometimes!! Can I also say that I don't like his mother b/c she's the one that raised him??? But, how can you not like a little old lady who just likes to talk??? I know, these things always come to surface when I do go to work on Thursdays and come home...and sometimes other days too...but mostly I get pissed off at him on these days.
Here's why: I called him to say I was leaving (late) from work...and he wants to know if he can go shoot his bow when I get home. But, the way he says it is this: I know you have to make dinner when you get home but can I go outside and shoot my bow. Now, I know I told him we were having pasta for dinner. So, why didn't he start making dinner?? I have no clue. I could have said no...but in true 'ME' fashion, I said sure, go ahead. And then, I sit a mull about it and get even more pissed off at him. He thinks nothing of it and things we are all ok after like 5 minutes...but, I still can't stand him right now.
Last night, we were all out when he got home. And, I had to feed them quick before I left and get out the door...so all the dinner dishes were still around. You'd think that maybe he would've pitched in and done some of the dishes or something. The iced-tea jug was empty and he could've made that. Something...anything. I never wanted to be this old fashioned stay at home Mom...I always thought that husband and wife would meet in the middle and help each other out with these stupid menial tasks of dishes and stuff. My husband needs me to write him a note to take notice of the dishes. And, when he does do them, he conveniently forgets some of the dishes left on the table, the pots/pans on the stove and he doesn't wipe down any counters/tables/high chairs. Even tonight, I took the girls upstairs for baths (which means he could've gotten off of his ass and stopped watching the Yankee game) and at least put the dinner dishes in the sink and maybe empty the stupid dishwasher, right?? Am I expecting too much?? I may not work a full-time job like him and I might not bring in the money that he makes, BUT, I do work pretty damn hard at watching these kids, working in the library, trying to sell my baked goods, watching other people's kids and pretty soon doing b-day parties on weekends.
If this were truly an 'old fashioned' marriage I wouldn't have to go out and try and make some money, would I????? so, if I have to do that other stuff, why can't he help out??
We've been married almost 10 years now. We have a house, 4 kids and a horrible economy. So, how do we get back what we once have?? How do I stop thinking what a jerk he is?? I mean, the kids love him and he really is a good father to them...but he pretty much sucks as a husband these days. I told him that he needed to 'woo' me again b/c I forgot what that was all about...but he wanted to know what I was going to do for him...ha ha ha ha...you know, I don't do anything at all ever for him. Jerk. Yeah, I keep saying that, don't I.
OK...enough about that. Thanks for listening (and MOm, please don't be worried, ok???)
My next mission in life is to come up with lots and lots of money so that I can make it to Ireland in October... I wanted to go in a tell Mr. Wonderful Hubby that I was going whether he liked it or not and that he needed to figure out how to pay for it b/c he always figures out how to pay for his hunting trips and he would also need to figure out who was going to watch our children while I was away b/c that's what I have to do when he goes on his hunting trips. Wonder what he would've said to that. Oh wait, I know...Mr. Jerk would have told me to go get a job making the money he does so that I could pay for it.
OK, I'll stop now...promise!!
Today, I brought home some books for Kyra to read about Whining, Tattling and Sharing. She asked me why I brought them home for her and I asked her if she does all that stuff...she shyly told me she did and didn't ask again why I am having her read them!! Perhaps it will help??? Now, if only I can get her to get her clothes and shoes in the correct place these days...lol
Next up, I have to write out everything that needs to get accomplished this week. We leave for vacation in 1 week... I am still thinking about leaving everyone home and just going by myself.
Here's hoping our truck only has minimal damage and can get fixed before we leave!! I'm getting car-sick from the bucking. And I apologize for those behind me... I just can't seem to get past like 50 MPH...sorry:(
Random Thought- Ireland or Bust!!
Holiday pic
Friday, August 12, 2011
Wednesday, August 10, 2011
Regression and Finances...
There you have it...2 tough topics all rolled up into one day. Now, aren't you sooooooooo jealous of me?? Go on, I know you are!!
OK, let's talk REGRESSION first. Oh, how I hate when they do that. Today, my 8 year old regressed about 3 or 4 years. Yup, he had one of his tantrums that he has not had in such a long time. Perhaps it happened b/c I thought he had finally outgrown them...or perhaps not. DJ is a very moody child and keeps his feelings all holed up inside. Not a good thing, I know...I have a tendency to do this, just ask my family and hubby:) OK, back to DJ... I think this week he is tired. He had a late night Friday (I know, it's almost Wednesday... but I think kids take time to adjust again), a very early morning Sunday and has been going to bed around 9:30 all summer.... and we've been waking up early for VBS this week. Oh, and I definitely think he feels it when hubby and I fight...yes, I know, we're not supposed to do that in front of the kids but hubby and I don't talk much these days. So, when we do, it tends to get a little heated and it's usually when we're in the car b/c that's the only time there is no hunting shows, laundry, cleaning, feeding, etc to be dealt with. I did feel the need to tell the 2 big kids the other day that just b/c Mommy and Daddy fight doesn't mean they don't love each other...ooooof...that was not something I ever thought I'd have to tell my kids.
Geez...another tangent...back to DJ: so, his friend came home with us after VBS and they were playing Wii while I made lunch...after lunch they went back to their games and then his friends mom came to pick him up. I wanted DJ to come and say good-bye...he didn't think he should have to pause his game to come say goodbye to his friend. When he finally did, he was kinda rude about it so I told him he couldn't finish his game b/c of it. Ha...you'd think I told the kid I wasn't ever going to feed him again or something. So, he stomps around the house almost in tears. OK...ding ding ding...I need to separate him and give him some alone time... asked him to get his book and start reading it...again, you'd think I gave him the worst punishment ever. He stood in the back hallway, balling his eyes out and yelling at Max to leave him alone and to go away. This is after I told him that he needed to go upstairs and read his book so he could get away from everyone and decompress a little. Yeah, 8 yr olds don't understand the whole concept of decompression; hence the balling his eyes out in the back hallway. And so, calmly I walked back to him, didn't say a word, picked him up kicking and screaming at me and carried him to his room. Yes, he is still a super strong kid...but I have those Mommy Powers and was able to get him into his room (up the stairs and all...just a few minor scratches) and walked away. Whew... I hate it when he gets that way but I'm glad I didn't scream at him today about it. And boy, did he let it all out. I felt like crying myself... but after that, the other 2 kinda knew I meant business and actually followed through with their quiet time. And Franny was able to nap longer than 20 minutes!! LOL
But, let me tell you I didn't want to even know them when we had to go to Shop Rite later in the day!! Oh, and by the time this summer is over, Kyra is not going to own any clothes, shoes or toys. And do you know what she tells me when I 'pick up' her toys and stuff?? I don't care if you throw it out...I don't like that one anyway!! I know she cares...and boy do I hope she just gets it soon and starts to put her stuff away!! How many times do we have to take her stuff away before she gets it?? I think she only has 1 pair of shoes right now to use b/c she keeps leaving them all over the place!!!
OK...let's talk FINANCES and how my simple brain just can't wrap around all those stupid concepts. Is it wrong to let hubby take the lead on this stuff?? Maybe not, but perhaps I should take more of an interest in knowing what our Life Insurance actually says (I did know at one point, but I just can't remember these days), and what my 401K actually is from when I worked, and what our retirement looks like and do we have any?? I went to a presentation tonight in which someone was trying to get us to become what they were and sell all these insurance plans/investments/car insurance etc. to the 'average' american. Ha ha ha...I don't have time to take a crap (sorry, I know that's kinda vulgar) and this man thinks I have the time to go to a class (ok, so it's only 2 sunday's and a wednesday to take a test), train under him, make contacts who want me in their home talking about their finances... yeah, sure. And even if I did have the time, I just don't think I could do this. So, I learned that I need to take more of an interest in this stuff...
Are you bored yet...I need some sleep...later:)
Random thought: Tell me what you want to hear about?? I'm working on some 'lists'...what do you want to hear first:
- Things kids love and Parents love to hate
- What I learned from playing Facebook Games
- What to do with your unused Granny Panties (you know you all have some) .. this list was lost on my wine spilled computer so I had to start over...lol
- The 12 Step Program on becoming a MOM
Have a great day!!
OK, let's talk REGRESSION first. Oh, how I hate when they do that. Today, my 8 year old regressed about 3 or 4 years. Yup, he had one of his tantrums that he has not had in such a long time. Perhaps it happened b/c I thought he had finally outgrown them...or perhaps not. DJ is a very moody child and keeps his feelings all holed up inside. Not a good thing, I know...I have a tendency to do this, just ask my family and hubby:) OK, back to DJ... I think this week he is tired. He had a late night Friday (I know, it's almost Wednesday... but I think kids take time to adjust again), a very early morning Sunday and has been going to bed around 9:30 all summer.... and we've been waking up early for VBS this week. Oh, and I definitely think he feels it when hubby and I fight...yes, I know, we're not supposed to do that in front of the kids but hubby and I don't talk much these days. So, when we do, it tends to get a little heated and it's usually when we're in the car b/c that's the only time there is no hunting shows, laundry, cleaning, feeding, etc to be dealt with. I did feel the need to tell the 2 big kids the other day that just b/c Mommy and Daddy fight doesn't mean they don't love each other...ooooof...that was not something I ever thought I'd have to tell my kids.
Geez...another tangent...back to DJ: so, his friend came home with us after VBS and they were playing Wii while I made lunch...after lunch they went back to their games and then his friends mom came to pick him up. I wanted DJ to come and say good-bye...he didn't think he should have to pause his game to come say goodbye to his friend. When he finally did, he was kinda rude about it so I told him he couldn't finish his game b/c of it. Ha...you'd think I told the kid I wasn't ever going to feed him again or something. So, he stomps around the house almost in tears. OK...ding ding ding...I need to separate him and give him some alone time... asked him to get his book and start reading it...again, you'd think I gave him the worst punishment ever. He stood in the back hallway, balling his eyes out and yelling at Max to leave him alone and to go away. This is after I told him that he needed to go upstairs and read his book so he could get away from everyone and decompress a little. Yeah, 8 yr olds don't understand the whole concept of decompression; hence the balling his eyes out in the back hallway. And so, calmly I walked back to him, didn't say a word, picked him up kicking and screaming at me and carried him to his room. Yes, he is still a super strong kid...but I have those Mommy Powers and was able to get him into his room (up the stairs and all...just a few minor scratches) and walked away. Whew... I hate it when he gets that way but I'm glad I didn't scream at him today about it. And boy, did he let it all out. I felt like crying myself... but after that, the other 2 kinda knew I meant business and actually followed through with their quiet time. And Franny was able to nap longer than 20 minutes!! LOL
But, let me tell you I didn't want to even know them when we had to go to Shop Rite later in the day!! Oh, and by the time this summer is over, Kyra is not going to own any clothes, shoes or toys. And do you know what she tells me when I 'pick up' her toys and stuff?? I don't care if you throw it out...I don't like that one anyway!! I know she cares...and boy do I hope she just gets it soon and starts to put her stuff away!! How many times do we have to take her stuff away before she gets it?? I think she only has 1 pair of shoes right now to use b/c she keeps leaving them all over the place!!!
OK...let's talk FINANCES and how my simple brain just can't wrap around all those stupid concepts. Is it wrong to let hubby take the lead on this stuff?? Maybe not, but perhaps I should take more of an interest in knowing what our Life Insurance actually says (I did know at one point, but I just can't remember these days), and what my 401K actually is from when I worked, and what our retirement looks like and do we have any?? I went to a presentation tonight in which someone was trying to get us to become what they were and sell all these insurance plans/investments/car insurance etc. to the 'average' american. Ha ha ha...I don't have time to take a crap (sorry, I know that's kinda vulgar) and this man thinks I have the time to go to a class (ok, so it's only 2 sunday's and a wednesday to take a test), train under him, make contacts who want me in their home talking about their finances... yeah, sure. And even if I did have the time, I just don't think I could do this. So, I learned that I need to take more of an interest in this stuff...
Are you bored yet...I need some sleep...later:)
Random thought: Tell me what you want to hear about?? I'm working on some 'lists'...what do you want to hear first:
- Things kids love and Parents love to hate
- What I learned from playing Facebook Games
- What to do with your unused Granny Panties (you know you all have some) .. this list was lost on my wine spilled computer so I had to start over...lol
- The 12 Step Program on becoming a MOM
Have a great day!!
Monday, August 8, 2011
Momma said they'll be days like this...
Oh boy...what a day. Started off great but I know getting back into the whole school routine is NOT going to be FUN!!!
The 3 older kiddies started Vacation Bible School today. Max was sooooooooo excited to be able to stay and participate. He is always so sad when he doesn't get to stay with the 2 Big kids or he doens't get to do what they get to do. So, I was excited for him. And, it was his first 'class' type setting w/o me. It's always been me and him in the library for like 40 minutes. But, today, he stayed for 3 whole hours w/o me. And, he did GREAT!!! I have to say, all of my kiddies have always been ok with going to any kind of 'school' setting. They have all walked into classrooms w/o a look back. I don't get the kids who cling to your leg or cry or even look back to wave good-bye. I don't even get hugs when they go in. (I know, Franny Girl won't disappoint me...ha ha ha). And so, I know he will be just fine for school in October!! Yeah Max.
Ah yes...let the fun times begin...lol...went to p/u the big kiddies. Fed them a 'healthy' lunch...yes, today it definitely was a healthy one...I am not being sarcarstic...I swear!! Baby J got picked up...and I just went to town on cleaning. I think I got so sick of the stickiness in the 'eating' area and the extra table set-up just collects STUFF!!! And so, we cleaned. And yes, WE cleaned. I had Kyra scrubbing the chairs and DJ washing windows!! So, that was good...but alas, Franny was not cooperating and Max was trying to ask a million questions and Kyra had smooshed dirt in his head and tried to rinse it out so she wouldn't get in trouble and DJ wouldn't sit and do his book report and Max started running around the house and I was trying to finish the cleaning, look info on the computer and figure out what to feed the monsters...Franny was crying at my feet...DJ was doing handstands instead of his math that he had moved on to, Kyra was taking her sweet time writing out 'I will not put dirt in Max's hair' 20 times...had to get out of the house by like 5:30...AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
OK...Now I find a mindless show and relax for a bit before I go to bed. Franny is sleeping earlier and through the night...but my brain hasn't caught up to that notion yet...
Random thought- I HEART Dancing (really I do...and I just miss it all the time)
The 3 older kiddies started Vacation Bible School today. Max was sooooooooo excited to be able to stay and participate. He is always so sad when he doesn't get to stay with the 2 Big kids or he doens't get to do what they get to do. So, I was excited for him. And, it was his first 'class' type setting w/o me. It's always been me and him in the library for like 40 minutes. But, today, he stayed for 3 whole hours w/o me. And, he did GREAT!!! I have to say, all of my kiddies have always been ok with going to any kind of 'school' setting. They have all walked into classrooms w/o a look back. I don't get the kids who cling to your leg or cry or even look back to wave good-bye. I don't even get hugs when they go in. (I know, Franny Girl won't disappoint me...ha ha ha). And so, I know he will be just fine for school in October!! Yeah Max.
(dirty max...)
Franny and I got some alone time before Baby J came...I know, it feels like forever since he's been here, right??? He came in sleeping and I was finally able to get Franny asleep. She was woken up this morning before she was really ready...I love waking a sleeping baby and watching their reactions. Yeah, but then I wish they would go back to sleep so they aren't cranky...lol...which she definitely was today!! So, I got like 30 minutes snuggled with her while we both 'rested'. Ah yes...let the fun times begin...lol...went to p/u the big kiddies. Fed them a 'healthy' lunch...yes, today it definitely was a healthy one...I am not being sarcarstic...I swear!! Baby J got picked up...and I just went to town on cleaning. I think I got so sick of the stickiness in the 'eating' area and the extra table set-up just collects STUFF!!! And so, we cleaned. And yes, WE cleaned. I had Kyra scrubbing the chairs and DJ washing windows!! So, that was good...but alas, Franny was not cooperating and Max was trying to ask a million questions and Kyra had smooshed dirt in his head and tried to rinse it out so she wouldn't get in trouble and DJ wouldn't sit and do his book report and Max started running around the house and I was trying to finish the cleaning, look info on the computer and figure out what to feed the monsters...Franny was crying at my feet...DJ was doing handstands instead of his math that he had moved on to, Kyra was taking her sweet time writing out 'I will not put dirt in Max's hair' 20 times...had to get out of the house by like 5:30...AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
(Franny at the dancing practice..)
OK- we got out and stopped for the really healthy meal of the day (ok...now I'm being sarcrastic) at Wendy's...before going to try and help some young tarts the style of Swing Dance. Yes, you heard it here first, I am teaching some kids (ok, they're like 16) Swing Dancing. Ha ha ha ha. I had to look up the steps on line today so that I remembered what to do with them... that went well...I think. I have to go back Wednesday night for review:)
(Max driving a golf cart while I taught those kids)
And so, I am finally alone in my living room (Franny went down late due to a catnap on the way home from the 'dancing')...and boy, does she not go down well. So much for backing up the time of her going to bed...OK...Now I find a mindless show and relax for a bit before I go to bed. Franny is sleeping earlier and through the night...but my brain hasn't caught up to that notion yet...
Random thought- I HEART Dancing (really I do...and I just miss it all the time)
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